Many people who seek the help of a Human Givens therapist are experiencing some difficulty in a relationship at home or at work. This can be a source of considerable distress particularly if a lot of time is spent ruminating over what has gone wrong. If there is a sincere objective to improve matters, then therapy can help.

Whether it is an individual or a couple seeking counselling the following can be addressed:

• Clarify the root of the conflict.
• Prevent arguments from getting out of control.
• Create awareness of unhelpful pattern matches.
• How to manage your expectations of the other person.
• How best to get important needs met within the relationship.
• Psychoeducation about male and female brain differences.
• Dealing with other issues such as anger disorders, anxiety, depression, trauma, conditioning, etc. that could be impinging on the relationship.
• Deal with trust issues or betrayal.
• Create realistic agreements around responsibilities.
• Self-management skills.

Autonomy and control, which is an important human need, is encouraged in Human Givens Therapy and leading a fulfilling life does not involve dependence on a therapist. Good therapy should be as brief as possible and be focused on the future.